Universal Self Help Sessions: Marcia

ESSENTIAL INSTRUCTIONS

For best results, this series assumes you have...

You may get useful results from this series, even without the above preparation, but you will likely leave major amounts of healing on the table.

Ultimately, our approach here aims at the mental/emotional/spiritual causes of all issues and that is why we often get results where other methods fail.  As you will see, these causes have parallels applicable to everyone.  Thus...

It doesn't matter what label is given
your specific disease or disorder, the
Optimal EFT approach will be the same.

That's why the diligence use of this series can bring solid results even though your issue may appear entirely different from the one presented.

The details involved in these sessions will be different from yours, of course.  This is because no two people have had the identical experiences in life.  However, the underlying angers, resentments, fears, guilts and similar causes have direct parallels to yours.  In the larger sense ... anger is anger and guilt is guilt, regardless who is experiencing them or under what circumstances.

Thus following along with the client herein, while drawing your own parallels, can come very close to this being a customized session for your issue.  Impressive results are possible but your diligence and proper preparation are essential.  Here are the instructions:

  • Identify your issues before the sessions by writing them down e.g. anxiety, headaches, pain, name of disease or disorder, etc.  This simply tells your system what you are working on.
  • Then assume you are the client and respond as you would if you were in the client's shoes.  Where feasible, substitute your own details for those of the client.  YOU DON'T NEED PRECISION OR PERFECTION HERE.  A reasonable effort will do.  Your system and The Unseen Therapist knows what you are working on.  This may seem a little awkward at first but you will soon get used to it.
  • The numerous conversations involved in these sessions are essential because the concepts are mostly universal and thus apply to you.  So give them your alert attention.
  • Take your time with each session.  Hurrying through them will only dilute your results.  Pause the video and replay as needed.
  • Don't expect immediate and dramatic results up front.  Your pace may be different than that of the client.  Patience can pay great rewards.

Also, some of the topics may trigger your issues.  If this becomes uncomfortable you may, of course, omit this process from your Optimal EFT education.  On the other hand, such triggers are likely pointing you to important issues for which you can invite in The Unseen Therapist for resolution.  This can become one of the outstanding results of this process.

Please consult physicians on all medical issues.  

e-hugs, Gary


The Marcia Sessions

Note: Marcia, age 70, had severe Adrenal Fatigue and was worried that any session over 20 minutes would cause her to physically "tank" and take her several days to recover.  As you will see, she eventually regains her adrenal functions and has renewed energy.  You may not have Adrenal Fatigue but, as you now know, that doesn't matter.  Her recovery was because we addressed her underlying mental/emotional/spiritual causes.  You, of course, have your own parallels to these causes underlying your ailment(s) and that is why these sessions can provide impressive benefits.

Further, these sessions are particularly worthwhile because they were done in the early stages of Optimal EFT's formation.  Thus you will see how Optimal EFT was birthed and how I originally start with the tapping form of EFT and soon graduate to the more in-depth methods.  Also, I don't bring in terms like The Unseen Therapist and The Guard at the Gate until later in the sessions.  That's because they weren't developed in the earlier stages.

Here are the video sessions along with the notes I made at the time.  Your are urged to read all of the notes before viewing any of the videos.  This will give you the big picture up front.  Very helpful.

Please consult physicians on all medical issues.

Session 1:  I HAD THE WRONG SETTING FOR HER AUDIO AND HAD TO AMP IT UP A LOT TO BE HEARD.  AS A RESULT, IT IS A BIT “TINNY” BUT ONCE YOU GET USED TO IT, IT IS OK.  FUTURE SESSIONS ARE FINE IN THIS REGARD.

NOTE ALSO…BECAUSE OF HER PREVIOUS FACIAL SENSITIVITY TO TAPPING WE ARE DOING ALL THESE SESSIONS IN A SURROGATE/OPTIMAL EFT FASHION … WE ARE EXPERIMENTING.

In a discussion prior to recording she discussed her forgiveness need for herself.  She blamed herself at ages 2 to 5 for being a “bad girl” (mis-behaved) and therefore didn’t get love from parents, etc. according to her needs (rules).  She also needs to forgive her mother.

We discussed symptoms in the early part.  She could feel her adrenals when they were bad and she had blurriness in her eyes (not related to glasses or regular vision defects).  Also, she often “tanked” after exertion and this could sometimes last 5 to 10 days.

We applied EFT to physical symptoms, particularly the blurriness in her eyes.  After several rounds the blurriness went from a 7 to a 3 and stayed that way throughout the session.

At 18 minutes I begin getting to specifics and We ended up on an “Abandonment” specific event where, at Marcia’s 20 months age, mother was ill and handed her daughter to strangers on a ship for care.  Marcia took this as abandonment and felt unsafe.  She knows now logically that mother was doing the best she could given the circumstances.  We took this down, after several surrogate/optimal EFT rounds, to normal … no real emotional charge.

We then closed the curtain on the session.  Her homework was to list more specific events centering around abandonment, not loved, blame, forgiveness and the like.

Session 2:   Excellent results.  She didn’t tank at all.  Her eye blurriness held or got a little better (was 7 to 3 but now generally about a 2).  Her list of specific events got shorter because many of them didn’t seem to have the emotional charge.  Her general energy level improved by about 40%.  We tested her previous “abandonment” specific event and it stayed at zero.

We then did a lot of “mental work” (no surrogate or physical tapping - note that this is the forerunner to the Optimal EFT method) on the next specific event where her grandmother told her at age 3 or 4 that cows and roving monkeys were going to come and eat her.  Grandmother then locked the door and left laughing.

My mental work involved bringing in God/angels,etc to let her know she was safe.  Gradual improvement.  Finally, we did a couple of rounds of doing it together and radiating love toward grandmother.  Seemed very effective.  Tested at a low number (1 or 0).

Session 3:  Since our last session she “overdid” a walk and overate some almond butter.  Accordingly, she paid a price in that she felt lowered energy.  Her eye blurriness came back to a 7 and, overall, she felt her previous improvement fell from 40% to 25-30%.  Emotionally she fell into some self blame and thought I would blame her for screwing up the experiment (said she was near tears about this).  

THUS THIS SELF BLAME THING APPEARS TO BE A FOUNDATIONAL ISSUE.

“It’s my fault” and “I’m not lovable”  both came out as an 8.

Also, she believes the eye blurriness is connected to the health of her adrenals.

We dealt with a specific event at age 15 where her mother snooped into her things and discovered a math test wherein she got an F.  Mother eventually, out of frustration, hit Marsha across the face with a wash cloth.  She got worked up about this and WE ENTERED INTO A GOOD STAND ALONE SESSION ON FORGIVENESS.  GOOD PHILOSOPHY – ALL ONE – MOTHER IS CONVENIENT DARTBOARD FOR MARCIA’S PROJECTIONS – MOTHER INCAPABLE OF GIVING LOVE. METAPHORS WITH A RED BALL AND MOTHER & MARCIA BOTH HAVING ARMOR WITH LOVE AT THE CENTER.  THAT LOVE BLENDED.

We got this from an 8/9 to about a 3.  

Eye blurriness improved by the end of the session to a 3.

Session 4 : The two days after our session she had some “bad days” on the emotional front.  This centered around the self blame and lack of forgiveness issue about herself and her mother.  On the third day a resolution appeared and she estimated these issues to be about a 4.  Eye blurriness was about a 3 ½  and she feels her overall progress was 40% or more.

IMPORTANT DISCUSSION ENSUED where I comment that higher intelligence [EVENTUALLY CALLED THE UNSEEN THERAPIST]  was invited in.  It seemed to do things we couldn’t do on our own and faster.

We then did more Optimal EFT on self-blame using a barrel with self blame in it.  Seemed successful.  Then we revisited the washcloth slap and found shock rather than blame.  More Optimal EFT appeared to put that to bed.  We then addressed a guilt issue wherein she entered into relationship with a boyfriend for safety reasons.  Optimal EFT seemed to resolve it.

Session 5:  GOOD SESSION WITH SOLID PHILOSOPHY AND GOOD OPTIMAL EFT EXERCISES.

Eye blurriness was about the same as last time … about a 3.  No tanking.  Head fogginess improved.  “It’s all my fault” was a 1.  Had a great day on Monday.  Overall her improvement went from a 40% improvement to 60%.

We discussed a “hot spot” metaphor wherein we visualized hot spots within ourselves of guilt, blame, fear, lack of safety, etc. … very global but inviting in higher intelligence.  We then invited Love to come in and dissolve it.  Her hot spots were being unlovable, being unsafe, judgments.  Good discussion of re-conditioning.  GOOD PIECE AND GOOD PHILOSOPHY WITHIN IT. 

Around 35 minutes we did another really good STAND ALONE PIECE WHEREIN WE IMAGINED OURSELVES IN A BALL OF BLISS WHERE WE BELONGED AND THEN WALKING OUTSIDE OF IT TO EXPERIENCE ALL THE COMMOTION AND IRRITATION (LIKE A FISH OUT OF WATER) IN THE WORLD OF SEPARATION.  HERE WE DON’T BELONG AND SO WE WELCOME LOVE’S HAND TO BRING US BACK TO THE BLISS BALL.  More discussion on re-conditioning.

Session 6 :  Did well for two days … no tanking … but ran into limiting ego-oriented beliefs that caused her some distress.  At one point she had risen to around 75% overall improvement but then receded.  She started this session back at 60% with eye blurriness around 3 and head fogginess at 0.  The beliefs involved were the ego’s resistance to the new “oneness paradigm.”  She did “point touching EFT" on all of these and got them down to 0/1.  I told her to be on the lookout for them again.

We worked with Optimal EFT visualizations on her mother saying words to the effect, “You don’t do what you were told.”  Not much there because she had worked on it before.

We then aimed Optimal EFT at her adrenals with metaphors.  After a few tries the eye blurriness went down to a 1and her energy level went from a 5 to a 7.  Both plateaud there.

I introduced the Radiating Love process and we aimed this at her adrenals.  I used Joe.  She used Corgies.  Both licked her adrenals.  No real tangible result.

Session 7:  In the last 8 days she had several days where she was 85-95% improved.  Went hiking one day with no tanking.  Averaging about 75% improvement as compared with 60% from last time.  Eye blurriness was back to a 3 but she thinks that is due to dietary reasons.  

Around 17 min, we did some global Optimal EFT visualization about “I’m afraid of how much fear I’ve already let go.  GOOD PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION ON OUR RESISTANCE AND RE-CONDITIONING RE: STEPPING OUT OF THE DREAM.

Later we did more Optimal EFT on irritating people (both of us did our own and others invited to join because we all have the same issue).  Hers went from 7-1.  Mine went from 6  to 0/1.  We discussed how this is likely to resurface as part of the re-conditioning process.

Somewhere in here she emphasizes that she really does her homework between sessions.

Session 8:  Still at around 75% improved on average.  She said she had about 20 adrenal related symptoms to begin with and most of them have faded.  Energy/health much better but she tends to over do it and that sets her back.

Much philosophy in this session.

We worked on her belief that she must struggle to get relief and must “do it right.”

Sometime after 20 minutes we discussed the Surrender philosophy.

27:00 min:  At one of the visualizations we dwelled on projection.  Visualization was that her mother’s various irritating manners were Marcia’s own projection.  She liked the exercise.

Session 9: Overall improvement level remains around 70%.  Even her bad days are “Better Bad Days.”

She is having some major belief shifts.  We tested “To get love I need to struggle and do it right.”

The other belief which she is working on is like, “I’m not part of the living miracle … the oneness.  I am outside of it…an observer”

10:00 ON WE HAD A GREAT PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION ABOUT CHIPPING AWAY AT THE 24/7 SENSORY WORLD’S HOLD ON OUR TRUE ONENESS REALITY.  AT 27:00 WE ZEROED IN ON HER MOTHER AND THE WASHRAG INCIDENT.  AT 35:00 WE DEALT WITH SADNESS ASPECT ON THE WASHRAG INCIDENT.  THEN AT 40:00 WE DEALT WITH A “NOT 100% DONE: ON THE WASH RAG INCIDENT.  AT 48:00 SHE IDENTIFIED A STUCK ISSUE FOR TRUE FORGIVENESS.

THE ABOVE SERIES CAN BE BROKEN UP INTO PIECES TO SHOW HOW WE CAN TAKE THESE ISSUES APART.  EXCELLENT FOR FORGIVING SOMEONE AND THE NEW VERSION OF BORROWING BENEFITS.

Email Message from Marcia:

Hi, Gary

Here are some thoughts based on the past two weeks of EFT without a meeting with you.

*  I have been doing exclusively Optimal EFT during the past two weeks.
*  I believe that doing Optimal EFT together is more than the sum of its parts.  I have done some good work on my own but it seems more powerful with both of us working together.  (This is not a surprise.)
*  The past week I have been working on organizing my office, finances and taxes.  This has made my adrenals much more vulnerable.  While I have increased fatigue and some increased symptoms, I still feel that there is a stable core of adrenal health that does not go away.  It is challenging.  I have been working with the idea of making everything a meditation including working on taxes.  I have a protocol for taking breaks and resting every 20 minutes for a few minutes.
*  The issues I have been working on are: Adrenal health, lip herpes virus eradication, Fear that the 15-20 year old holds that if she lets go in meditation and experiences deep connection with Consciousness, she will lose control and become a bliss abyss addict and get nothing done.  (Don’t ask me, it’s her, not me that believes that.)  This belief is pretty well gone. I have been enjoying my meditation very much.  Lastly, I have been working on the habitual stress I hold in my body which was connected to an old belief that I had to struggle with life and do everything right in order to get loved.  The core belief seems to be gone. But the habitual stress responses like jaw clenching and tensed shoulders show up when I get busy.  

The rest of the beliefs seem to be pretty quiet.  

I did a kinesiology test to see how effective EFT is for me.  The result is that Optimal EFT is better than holding points.  Also, that collaborative work is more effective than work on it alone.  I also asked how long my inner healer thought it would take for the adrenals to heal:  by myself - about 4 months, with you helping - about 2 months.  I certainly don’t guarantee those results but that part of me that I can access is about 85% or more right in helping with all my health issues.

Talk to you tomorrow morning at 11.

Looking forward to it.

Marcia

Session 10 :  I again tested “To get love I need to struggle and do it right.” AND “I’m not part of the living miracle … the oneness.  I am outside of it…an observer”  Both of these tested at 0 or 1.  Later I tested the washrag incident and that was very low too.  She is still at a 70% improvement although she had a particularly demanding test during the last two weeks with organizing her office, taxes, etc.

10:30 on WAS A GOOD PHILOSOPHICAL DISCUSSION AND OE SESSIONS REGARDING HER, MINE AND EVERYONE ELSE’S RESISTANCE (GUARD AT THE GATE) TO GETTING TO THE “BLISS ABYSS.” 

The above involved coaxing The Guard at the Gate out of the way and dealing with our resistance.  In the process I brought up some resentments and she dealt with her 15 to 20 year old self.  We also discussed (later-may have been off camera) true forgiveness and the idea that we project the world.  Illusion, science, etc.

ALSO, SOMEWHERE IN THIS (I THINK IN THE LATTER PART) WE TEST HER ANGER AT MOTHER AND ALL SEEMED OK.  GOOD DISCUSSION ON COLLAPSING A LARGE ISSUE WITH ONE OR TWO SPECIFIC EVENTS.

Session 11:  MY SOUND DIDN’T RECORD SO VIDEO IS GONE.  We had an excellent session.  She plateaud around 70-75% and we discussed my and her readiness.  Worked on that.

Then excellent discussion on the dream (both sleeping and now).  Then forgiveness for someone else is forgiveness for you.  Had exercise where Unseen Therapist helped to see the beauty in her ex-husband.  A few Optimal EFT rounds and she had solid forgiving tears.

Session 12:  Her video was a little fuzzy but content was good.  THIS SESSION IS AN XLNT STAND ALONE SESSION FOR MANY PHILOSOPHICAL POINTS.

We started by recalling the last (unrecorded) session where she worked with Unseen Therapist on forgiving her husband.  

Around 5:50 she called him and it went well. However, he “didn’t get it” and this brought up a discussion of observing that she put a condition on this unconditional loving exercise.

Around 9:00 she had a desire to Trust True Self and we did an Optimal EFT process at around 16:30 to chip away at it.  In this process we both listened to Guard at the Gate and got a good sense of its insecurities.  After that was an excellent discussion as to what happened for both of us and many Optimal EFT principles were explored.

Session 13:  Continued work has gotten her to 85% improvement re: adrenal fatigue.

WE HAD MANY DISCUSSIONS INCLUDING “I HAVE TO BE COMPETENT, STRONG AND INTELLIGENT TO BE LOVED AND OK WITHIN MYSELF”  SHE ALSO TALKS ABOUT OPTIMAL EFT BEING A DAILY ROUTINE AND WE DISCUSS TAPPING VS OPTIMAL EFT.  MANY GOOD THINGS HERE. 

ANOTHER GOOD ONE IS A FOLLOW UP ON THE FORGIVENESS OF HER HUSBAND. THIS SEEMS COMPLETE AND SHE IS NO LONGER CONCERNED ABOUT MEETING HIM AND/OR HIS WIFE IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD SOCIALLY.  

We did two Optimal EFT rounds at the end.  We discussed getting to specific events near the end.  She will work on her own and we will get back together in 3 weeks.

Session 14:  This was apparently our last session. Lasted about 15 minutes and WAS BASICALLY A TESTIMONIAL

Her adrenal issues are no longer a problem.  As the testimony unfolded she said she went from 85% improved from our last session to 98% improved or even over 100%.

THERE WERE SOME DISCUSSIONS NEAR THE END REGARDING THE GUARD AT THE GATE.

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