Christine starts her article with, "If I have understood correctly, one of the most important parts of Optimal EFT is to get into a state of love and compassion in order to allow the Unseen Therapist to do her job. Also, the more one is in a state of love and compassion (non separateness) the more the Unseen Therapist can do her work."
If I have understood correctly, one of the most important parts of Optimal EFT is to get into a state of love and compassion in order to allow the Unseen Therapist to do her job. Also, the more one is in a state of love and compassion (non separateness) the more the Unseen Therapist can do her work.
However, I find that getting into this state isn't always very easy. But when I heard you talking about the daily exercises you did with A Course in Miracles I decided to put together the following suggestions in order to help people to practice this state:
1) Practice radiating love without aiming at anyone in particular. Just imagine radiating love and observe the feelings it gives you. Pay attention especially to the physical sensations that accompany this exercise.
I find that this exercise, and especially focusing on the body sensations, allows it to become more easily a second nature as the body has a greater memory than the brain.
2) Feel love for someone who is easy for you to feel love for and practice expanding that loving feeling.
3) Feel love for a loved one and once expanded, switch to someone who pushes your buttons or with whom you feel a resistance to sending love. As soon as any resistance appears, go back to the loved one and start the process over. Keep switching back and forth until you can do it without resistance.
4) Feel love for a loved one and imagine it expanding like a bubble, and then and touching a person who pushes your buttons and slowly including them until they get completely absorbed into the bubble.
5) Go step by step: start with someone easy for you to love and then gradually move on to people who irritate you more and more (for example, you could start with your child, and then move on to your spouse, your friend, your boss, etc).
6) Choose a "hard-to-love" person and imagine them as a small child. This child is at an age where it is still innocent and untainted by the hardships of life. Imagine the child receiving the love. Imagine what the child is feeling (physically and emotionally) when receiving the love. Practice seeing the essence of the small child and then expanding it.
I sometimes ask my clients to imagine that person the day it experienced the form of trauma that caused them to be the way they are today. I ask them to imagine the event that has left the child hurt and traumatised, and then to send compassion and comfort to it.
This exercise has proven to be very effective for clients who say, "I could never forgive or send compassion to them".
7) Imagine looking at yourself as a small, sweet, innocent child. Feel love and compassion for that child, see its essence and expand it. Again, imagine what it feels like for the child to receive the love and compassion you are radiating out to them.
I find this is often a good way around resistances (the Guard at the Gate) because there is an illusion of separateness (you are looking at the child as another person, yet as you are sending love to that child you are really sending it to yourself). Imagining receiving the love and the feeling it gives you allows you to go another step further because there's no point in sending yourself love if you don't allow yourself to receive it.
I also often ask my clients to imagine the child feeling relief upon receiving this love. The reason for this is that I once heard Esther Hicks (Abraham) say that the feeling of relief is the same as when one is connected to Source.
8) When shopping or at a restaurant etc., pick out random people and imagine radiating love to them.
9) Before going out (to a social gathering, shopping etc.) imagine radiating love in a general way, to everyone present. Continue doing so when you get there and observe the interactions that occur. (I've had some very interesting outcomes with this one!)
It would be interesting if others could contribute their suggestions and experiences too!